Kelly’s Week 8

Kelly’s Blog – Week 8

This week has been average. Probably more like most weeks in my life and what my upcoming weeks will also look like with school starting back. We (the family) had a lot of errands getting ready for school to start (and our regular activity schedule is outrageous). I exercised some, but not as much as when I was on vacation and I did not get in my weight training like I had been doing. But…it happens, right? So, you just try better the next week and that is what I am doing.

I did still lose 1.5 pounds, so my new total loss is 17.2. Yay me! I did eat out a little more than usual this week, because I attended the Women of Faith conference in D.C. and also went to a Blue Crabs baseball game on Sunday night. But, I did get up early at the conference and got in a little workout on Saturday morning.

However, it was my mid-week walk that still resonates in my mind. It was the walk of rhetorical questions. I just kept asking myself question after question. I say they were rhetorical, because I am not sure I have the answers yet. This is kind-of how the conversation played out (maybe not in the exact order).

• What is different about losing the weight this time?

• Will I ever be satisfied with my weight loss?

• What is a reasonable expectation of weight loss?

• Can I really lose another 20 pounds like I want to?

• Will I be able to maintain it?

• Why am I psyching myself out?

• What causes me to do that?

• Do I have bigger issues? If so, what are they? I feel happy.

• When the going gets tough….why do I feel like I want to give up?

• Why don’t I have more faith in God to get me through this process?

• Why is it so hard!

• Any loss is a good thing, right? So why do I feel defeated if I don’t lose 2 pounds?

• Can I reasonably lose 7 more pounds in 3 weeks to make my goal of 24 pounds in 12 weeks?

• Will I actually be able to maintain the weight loss this time, especially as the school year starts?

• Why am I asking myself so many questions…you need to stop!!

So, that was honestly the conversation in my head. Very defeating…huh? So looking back at it, I am going to approach this with a positive attitude and say – YES, I can do this. YES, I can maintain this. YES, I can make this a life style change and not go back. So there you have it! I had a great exercise and food day today (Monday), so I am starting the week off right. I will say that I do like weighing at the end of the week (like on a Friday) instead of at the beginning. Just a preference I guess.

So, if you felt like giving up this week – DON’T! Start again – not tomorrow…but right now!!

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Soooo, I’ve been thinking the past couple of days how to frame my blog in harmony with Kelly’s and I decided since she took a ride on the over-thinking train – that perhaps the most appropriate way to respond, as her trainer, is to reply directly to her questions….here goes:

• What is different about losing the weight this time?

o Accountability! The fact that you have to maintain a written account of your journey – and publish it weekly as a blog for the world to read, in and of itself is GREAT accountability! Oh, and let’s just say that even though I’m a few miles away (a mere 1,500 out of sight) I’m not out of ‘mind’ – that’s one thing I’ve learned is that having a trainer and/or a Coach – insert whichever word you’d like to use – is that you are ACCOUNTABLE at ALL times to someone other than yourself! “Big Brother” is watching!! I’ve had several trainers, still have a Coach and train others now!

• Will I ever be satisfied with my weight loss?

o We are ALWAYS are own worst critics – it’s human nature! So, the short answer, especially knowing you on a personal level – you very driven athlete you – is “no.” You may always want “more”, something “better”, and/or something “different”—suck it up buttercup and LOVE yourself… Once you reach your goal – I’m sure you will discover another one…as long as you’re healthy – your weight will become something that you can more easily maintain over practice…you’ve got this!

• What is a reasonable expectation of weight loss?

o Ok, we’ve had this discussion….so as a broken record…a ‘reasonable’ weight loss is 1-2 lbs. per week—till you reach your goal! You should always consult with a fitness expert, CPT and/or a doctor so that you don’t wish for the ridiculous and understand all the components of weight loss—genetics and age included! Remember – it is ALWAYS about being healthy—NEVER skinny!

• Can I really lose another 20 pounds like I want to?

o Abso-freakin’-lutely! It’s not going to melt off in a month….and it make take a full year depending on what occurs during your attempt to keep losing weight…’life’ happens and with life comes external stresses and factors not always in your control—but putting unhealthy items in your mouth IS!

• Will I be able to maintain it?

o Read the prior answer…!

• Why am I psyching myself out?

o You’re a type-A human being. Oh, and did I mention you’re a human being?! ‘Nuff said!

• What causes me to do that?

o Is there a psychologist out there?! LoL Let’s refer to the previous answer…and be mindful that another rotten thing about being a human being—is that we allow fear, all too often, to control our destination…

• Do I have bigger issues? If so, what are they? I feel happy.

o I cannot clinically state an answer to this, but I believe you’re FINE. You’re just allowing fear to creep into this already successful journey. And the interesting thing is that most people, myself included, often fear success!

• When the going gets tough….why do I feel like I want to give up?

o Because it’s the path of least resistance, sister! Human beings like life to be as easy as running through a drive thru restaurant…and look how that’s working out for them…stop it already with a “can I do this?” syndrome—YES – YOU already ARE doing it!! Bravo! (insert round of applause…)

• Why don’t I have more faith in God to get me through this process?

o God helps those who help themselves (but you know this already…). If you’re expecting that your faith alone in God will “get you through this process”, let me simply remind you that His faith is there…the work is up to you! He’s not going to make you reach your weight-loss goal—YOU are because your faith in yourself will guide you there…He’s already cheering you on!

• Why is it so hard!

o “Being cute ain’t easy and it doesn’t taste good!” Shannon Dey

o “It’s the hard that makes you great” Tom Hanks; “A League of Their Own”

• Any loss is a good thing, right? So why do I feel defeated if I don’t lose 2 pounds?

o Oye! Really Kel…please put that proverbial mallet that I’m now beginning to believe is right in your bedside table drawer that you take out every night before falling asleep and WHACK yourself with…bury it! You’re AMAZING and much too hard on yourself. You will NEVER be 30 again, or 20….or younger! Be your best version of yourself with what you have with where you are!

• Can I reasonably lose 7 more pounds in 3 weeks to make my goal of 24 pounds in 12 weeks?

o Yep!

• Will I actually be able to maintain the weight loss this time, especially as the school year starts?

o Yep…as long as you don’t dig the mallet out of the backyard and start using it!

• Why am I asking myself so many questions…you need to stop!!

o But…you’re only human…be gentle with yourself and have a LOT of patience!

Can’t wait to see what this week has brought….stay focused Kelly!

 

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